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What Is The Point Of A Relationship?
Jamie and I just had our latest show on "break ups" in relationships on our show "The Guide To The Human Experience," which got me thinking about what is the true intention of having a relationship? Most times we use relationships to make us feel better about something in our life. We use our partner as our crutch or we use them as the carrying tool to carry all of our baggage. But this can't be the true purpose of having a relationship. What happens if two people, who have been working on themselves for a certain amount of time, and have taken care of most of their baggage, get into a relationship? Would their be the typical fighting about who is right and who is wrong? Would that "spark" ever truly disintegrate?
I've been wondering these questions for a while now since I broke up with my last girlfriend about 9 months ago. I have spent a lot of time looking at what makes me happy but the problem is I originally used relationships to make me happy. So now what purpose does a relationship have in my life. The only conclusion I have is that the point of a relationship is to share your life experiences with someone. To share physicality with someone. That's it, just to share with. What do you think?
I've been wondering these questions for a while now since I broke up with my last girlfriend about 9 months ago. I have spent a lot of time looking at what makes me happy but the problem is I originally used relationships to make me happy. So now what purpose does a relationship have in my life. The only conclusion I have is that the point of a relationship is to share your life experiences with someone. To share physicality with someone. That's it, just to share with. What do you think?
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Permalink Reply by Jane Duet on -
Did not hear your show . . . (sorry!)
But to answer your question . . .
the best I have ever had "it" explained to me is--
a relationship lasts as long as the two partners or people are fulfilling each other's needs.
Once needs change, either the people in the relationship change to further meet the needs or the relationship is basically 'over', the choice being stay (miserable) or move yourself onto your next stage in life. Through my years I have found this applies to romances AND friendships. Family ties are a bit trickier (blood is indeed thicker than water), but still seem to follow this in principle.
The 'fun' is defining the 'needs'. They are not always obvious. For myself, realizing them (what my needs were at that time) has eased the transitions or breakups in my life.
That is 'what I think'.
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Permalink Reply by Jamie Kelly on
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Yeah, I think you are right. Even biologically, a relationship is a mutual agreement for two people to satisfy the needs of one another. But when things change and that job isn't being fulfilled anymore, break ups do happen. I'm still dealing with a massive breakup and it sounds exactly how you described it. Rather than keeping the relationship going, it ended because needs weren't being met. It's pretty simple if you think about it in these terms.
Jane Duet said:Did not hear your show . . . (sorry!)
But to answer your question . . .
the best I have ever had "it" explained to me is--
a relationship lasts as long as the two partners or people are fulfilling each other's needs.
Once needs change, either the people in the relationship change to further meet the needs or the relationship is basically 'over', the choice being stay (miserable) or move yourself onto your next stage in life. Through my years I have found this applies to romances AND friendships. Family ties are a bit trickier (blood is indeed thicker than water), but still seem to follow this in principle.
The 'fun' is defining the 'needs'. They are not always obvious. For myself, realizing them (what my needs were at that time) has eased the transitions or breakups in my life.
That is 'what I think'.
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