Be the Tree: A Meditation on what the Oak…

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE

You can take control of your life now!  You can change your body and energy level!  You can experience true joy & happiness today!  You can also transform your physique easier than you may think possible.  All you have to do is take charge of your mind and emotions by only allowing powerful, creative, loving thoughts to enter your mind.  You are the master of your mind.  Your mind…

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I hope everyone is enjoying these pretty days.  I have been finding myself encountering conversations and activities that are putting me out of my comfort zone… AND I’ve loved it (afterwards that is.)   I am learning that if I am uncomfortable, chances the other person is as well!  This is a lesson I’ve been learning and experiencing at The Open Door Acting Company.  I’ve been going to classes twice a week…

10 TIPS FOR WEIGHT LOSS SUCCESS

I'm asked a lot how to stay motivated... For me staying motivated takes determination and dedication to working towards my goals every day. I visualize how I want to be as though I've already achieved it, I stay positive and see the good in everyone & everything, love myself unconditionally and give to others daily to keep me on track and in line with that which I desire.

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5 KEYS FOR A HAPPIER LIFE

In today's world life is beyond busy, as a wife, mother & entrepreneur I know how crazy life can be.  It is truly a balancing act to care for my family, home, horses, work and me... If I'm not careful it's easy to fall into the feelings of being overwhelmed with all I have to do each day.

Women come to me often asking for assistance, they tell me their struggles and issues, it always…

Let’s explore the above heading a little together. You could be forgiven to think that surly this is something no one would ever do. What would be the point? Clearly I am not talking here about the act of lying; I’m sure that we have all been a little guilty of a white lie or two. If we really get into it here I am talking about living in a state of limbo. Unable to deal in the realms of the true you, because you feel if you were to do so you would never be able to deal with the emotions it…

So what is dissociation…..? Everyone can relate to periods when this occurs naturally; we take a familiar journey with no memory of the journey we have taken at all. It can also arrive as a form of self defence, a mechanism that helps us to survive a traumatic experience. There is a need to escape reality at that time, time off as it were to deal with the present situation. We all have our own feelings thoughts and memories. When these memories become too painful where do we go to escape? If…

Rejection…… A word that has the power to remind us that throughout our lives at times, we have to accept things that are not of our choosing. An emotion of not feeling wanted, loved, or even worthy of either. It’s a feeling that can bring you to your knees, one of feeling helpless. An inability to have any effect on the outcome however hard we try. We have all been in a situation where there may have been an attraction that was not reciprocated, not being able to gain access through a door…

I am sitting here at my pc in the mix of the season about to arrive. I’ve been faced by the outward realisation, merely by the Christmas shoppers; the Christmas tree’s arriving in the shops. The length of the cues we are forced to stand in becoming longer. It’s a happy time a time for rejoicing while mixing with those that you love. As it draws nearer there is an excitement that seems to bubble over from the masses around you, as they plan that perfect time. Which house will we be spending…

I’m in a bad way I have only just made it to the bathroom before throwing up; sitting there on my cold floor tiles I put my head between my knees just to keep upright. The room is spinning, rotating all around me like some never ending merry go round. I know that this is where I will sleep tonight, not trusting myself to be too far away from the bathroom. Its cold the house is in darkness and has never felt so empty. It’s just me and my drunken stupor, along with my demons, which once again…

More than once to date I have received an email from an abuser and not the abused. The question that must pop in to our heads is why? Why would someone of that ilk visit my web page? Is it not rubbing their noise in it? Are their reasons for being here pure? After much pondering, I have decided to write this piece to those of you that have.

If you are here then maybe there is a way to terminate this continued devastation. Can I help you realise, see clearly the excessive damage and…

It’s a question I have been asked many times both personally and indirectly through my web page. So which why am I being asked here? There are so many whys in my past; it’s quite difficult to pin each one down. This scenario I am sure mirrors the lives of so many people, still unable to answer that particular question for themselves. Let’s now return to the start of this piece and deal with the said question “would it not be easier to deal with the cause and not the aftermath”? That’s one…

Self harm is a very Controversial subject, and one that many people skirt around or as they say tread lightly.

Let’s first turn our attention to the outside world looking in. We are an unstable mind deliberately causing untold injury to ourselves, whilst finding or given justification. No one in their right mind would be able to do such a thing, what perverse pleasure are we striving for? Questioning our sanity fully aware the question has already been asked and answered. They turn to…

I have just been asked by my councillor about my sexuality, a question I have been waiting for that took its time to arrive. The answer has been in my mind for so long waiting to be announced. I truthful didn’t know. So what were my options here? It seems through choice that I am Heterosexual, Bisexual or Lesbian. It all sounds so very clean cut, all the boxes ticked in the right place. The problem I am having, is that not one box has been ticked within me. The three most prominent males…

I’ve just returned home after another session with my Psychiatrist, today has really not gone well. I was asked to visit a place that had so many bad memories for me. Dealing with the sexual side of my rehabilitation is a killer. I know that I need this psycho therapeutic treatment, because I am drowning in my own pain. How do I put into words the shear agony that I feel inside when I revisit that place. It feels like someone is tearing out the very heart of me, leaving me feeling hollow and…

Who do we see when we look in the mirror? You should be so comfortable with the face you were born with. We have seen ourselves grow and change, from the pictures we have witnessed when we were children. The truth is we never see the real us, the reflection always differs from the way that others see us. I am sure you know what I am talking about here, we think we are to fat but others tell us that not the case. Our hair never seems to look good, while friends ask us for our stylist’s…

It’s raining and I am kneeling next to my father’s grave. The dirty water and mud swish all around me but I pay no mind. I have so many questions that need to be answered by a man that has been dead for so many years. Do I remember him or only the stories I have been told over the years? I was only three when he departed this world. As far back as I can remember my Stepfather had told me that I was just like him. My Father had been a violent drunk; my mother had endured a life of hell under…