When I turned 40 (a few years back) I decided to make my 40’s the decade of “YES” I would try as many things possible, each new idea, concept or even a new thing to do would begin with the phrase I can try instead of I can’t.
But with that being said I think most people would think I struggle with the word “NO” and to be honest the majority of the time I don’t. A long time ago I thought it was a flaw to say ‘NO” but now I realize it’s absolutely not.
I have come to the understanding that I am responsible for managing my time and it’s up to me to ensure I set boundaries for myself. I really enjoying living a simplified and balanced life, which implementing boundaries into my life have been so helpful for me? Before if someone, a friend, family member or even an acquaintance asked me to something I would jump at the chance, you see I am a DO-er so I must DO! But I soon realized that saying “no” does not mean I am incapable, it just means it does not fit into my schedule.
For those of you who HATE to disappoint people or if you cringe at the “oh no” look on peoples faces when you say “not this time”. Trust me that feeling will soon fade. Each time you send out “not this time” you are creating time for you. Gone will be the days of awkward positions with requests. It’s not your job to do everything. You can still be helpful and there will be some Yes or two but first try the No’s first.
It’s important to have a sense of space in your life, a place that is whole, nurtured and not being pulled in a million directions. Even if the world is demanding don’t worry plant both feet firmly on the ground and create those boundaries.
Here’s to a few awkward moments, as you and I learn to set boundaries!